December 2015 - Monthly News & Tips
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"Sometimes, you feel like you're doing the battle alone. Being with the other parents definitely made me feel more supported. There's a whole bunch of other people going through the same thing with their kids." - A parent of a former Emily Program client
With the December holidays right around the corner, we've entered one of the most difficult times of year where environmental triggers are at their highest for those who have either suffered from an eating disorder or are in recovery from one.
The combination of large feasts, chocolates in the mail, and family get-togethers present a wide array of both challenges and the potential for success for clients and their families.
In the midst of the disorder, there may be tremendous pain for the individual suffering and for their family and loved ones. Holidays so often are associated with love and joy, but instead we experience the strange sensation of triggers and painful emotions.
There may be a tendency in everyone's part to feel shame or blame and letting oneself or the family down. Since we know that no one gets better from an eating disorder alone, family, friends and loved ones are usually the greatest base for support during recovery.
That's why it is crucial that we not fall into a shame or blame cycle if the holidays are difficult. Instead with support and honesty, along with acknowledging and accepting of possible challenges, the holidays also can be a time to come together, promote healthy experiences and make meals a time of rejoicing, rather than a time of pain.
For those who have recovered, the holidays may be a particular time to celebrate that recovery — as they may come to represent a challenge overcome and the embrace of a long sought-after goal that is evidenced by growth and change.
During the holiday season, The Emily Program sends its congratulations and support to our community of recovered clients. For anyone who is struggling this holiday season, be sure to check-in with your therapist for extra support during this difficult time of year. We wish you all continued success this holiday season.
Mark Warren, MD
Chief Medical Officer, The Emily Program
The Emily Program addresses common misunderstandings about eating disorders and related issues in our Did You Know section.
Families do not cause eating disorders. Over controlling parents and dysfunctional families were once to blame for a child's eating disorder. Today, with new research and experience we know there is no evidence to support this claim that eating disorders are caused by any particular parenting style. Instead, we know that between 50 to 80 percent of a person's risk is due to genetic factors.
In fact, parents and families can play an integral role in helping a loved one recover. That's why Family Based Therapy (FBT) is a primary modality used in adolescent treatment and is strongly encouraged for adults as well.
Kelli Bildstein, The Emily Program-Residential (Cleveland, OH) chef
Kelli joined our team with the June opening of The Emily Program's residential facility in Cleveland. She has always wanted to work in the eating disorder field after suffering from the illness herself.
"I know what it is to live the life of someone who has an eating disorder," she said. "After years of healing, self-care, and monitoring myself, I knew working with this population was where I wanted to be. I personally understand the process of what our clients are going through. It's a beautiful program to be a part of."
Kelli spends her days ordering food, menu planning, and preparing and serving two to three meals a day for our residents. In addition, she hosts a weekly cooking class to teach our clients about proper portions and nutrition.
With the upcoming holidays in mind, she's planning a Hanukkah meal of potato latkes, braised beef brisket, and jelly doughnuts. For Christmas, she's serving seared pork tenderloin, roasted brussel sprouts, and orange glazed sweet potatoes.
Learn more about Kelli and why we think she stands out!
TEP: What makes you want to get up each morning and go to work?
Kelli: I know I carry an important job that I am very passionate about. Also, we have an amazing team over here at the Cleveland Heights residential program. The people that I work with really make the days worthwhile. No matter what is going on I know that we have a solid team that can handle quite a bit.
TEP: What goes into planning each meal?
Kelli: For each week, I keep in mind the dietary restrictions we currently have in house, as well as what is in season at the time.
TEP: What's your favorite holiday tradition?
Kelli: My "Oma" and "Opa" are from Germany and my mom is first generation born in the states. Every year, we celebrate our heritage by eating Bratwurst, Oma's delicious kartoffel salat, Hungarian hot peppers and dunkel brot. We then finish the night off by singing holiday carols in English and German and then we all cover everyone's favorite, "Joy to The World" by Three Dog Night.
In Cleveland, OH:
Wednesday, December 2: Begins at 6:00 p.m. at 25550 Chagrin Blvd, Suite 200, Beachwood, OH
Speaker: Mark Warren, TEP's Chief Medical Officer & a community speaker
In St. Paul, MN:
Tuesday, December 8: Begins at 6:30 p.m. at 2265 Como Ave, St. Paul, MN
Speakers: Katie and Cathy
Katie: Katie's story began as one of anxiety, depression, bulimia and PTSD. Through her healing journey, her story transformed into one of forgiveness, faith, acceptance, connection, and the power of fully seeing others and being fully seen. She has uncovered her gifts, reclaimed her voice, and found beauty and purpose in her wounds and scars.
Cathy: Cathy was tomboy kid and was teased a lot by her siblings and classmates. She took up running, lost weight, and was complimented on her appearance. So, she ran more. Eventually the compliments stopped. After struggling with both anorexia and bulimia, she was able to find help, support, and a new tools to focus her energy toward other areas of enjoying life. Today, her desire is to inspire her children, their friends, and others to heal, cope, and recover.
Please note: Beginning in 2016 our St. Paul Recovery Nights will be held quarterly instead of monthly.
In Lacey, Seattle, and Spokane, WA:
Upcoming Recovery Nights will be held in 2016. Click here to view all upcoming Recovery Nights in Washington, Ohio, and Minnesota.